Women Playing Into Sexism Makes No Sense

On the last episode of “Things Renny Discusses”, I covered the wild aunty that attacked an innocent American woman, because the woman questioned the practice of forcing only women to participate in domestic chores when her fully capable fiancé offered to participate and was commanded by aunty to retreat. Check out the post and most importantly, READ THE COMMENTS.

The comments are generally in agreement and there are many people openly discussing the prevalence of misogyny and sexism within our so-called culture. However, where there are wise people willing to admit to the existence of the mistreatment of women, you shall find those people that choose to be blind. Please, why were there so many women excusing aunty’s behavior? And by excusing, I mean they were implying that the mother had a right to be angry because the woman asked the question.

Some women in that comment section seem not to understand that there is nothing wrong with questioning a practice that demands something of someone solely because of sex, when sex is not relevant. If we asked a man to breastfeed, then we are all mad. If we ask an average woman to lift a 100lb item, when a 300lb man is available, then maybe we are all not okay. But when we have the task of clearing the plate, can we not ask why a man cannot carry a 0.5lb plate? What is so special about women’s hands that they must be permanently relegated to anything associated with eating and cleaning?

You see what I just did there… I asked a very simple harmless question… WHY CAN’T OTHER WOMEN ASK THESE QUESTIONS?

Certain women in the comment section seem to believe that culture is sacred.. and it is in fact NOT sacred. Culture is man-made. Culture did not fall from the sky and develop itself. A group of people decided what aspects constitute the culture, therefore it can always be changed. Therefore, the culture of sexism can be changed, questioned, and examined. Choosing to focus on the clearing of the plate versus the reaction to culture being questioned showcases the innate alignment with sexism that many women have.

So now I ask again.. what do you merit for being a gatekeeper of a culture that has relegated your hands for dishpacking? Is there a trophy labeled “best in sexism goal keeping”? What award do you benefit from dying on the hill of “women must pack plates for life”? NONE. So why is it that on a free platform like Instagram, many women chose to ignore the call to action (action being: can we please remove the parts of culture that banish women to kitchen duties)?

A lot of women probably did not realize they were subconsciously defending these outdated practices by legitimizing aunty’s outburst, but that is what they were doing. If someone questions why a man brings his new girlfriend to meet his family and she is expected to morph into their domestic worker, that is fine! If someone asks why women are required to kneel down to their new husbands during their traditional weddings, that is fine. If someone asks why only women are seen running around a family party tending to guests but the uncles are sitting down enjoying their beers, that is fine. We cannot continue to pretend that our culture is fair towards women. It is not! If you are a woman deluding yourself about that, please tell me what you benefited from this.

Thanks for reading!
Renny